these are there stories: promising young woman and its case for rape-revenge films

CONTENT WARNING: now, before i begin this post, i am going to let you know that there is a bit of talk of a few heavy topics including, rape and sexual assault. if you're not into all of that, please stray away from this post. otherwise, read on.

watching promising young woman took me back to early film theory classes. in one, we watched i spit on your grave (yes, the 1978 version; yes, a man taught the class). while this wasn't the first time i had seen the film, it was the first time that i was allowed to openly have a discussion about the film without someone blinking wildly and going, "HUH?"

dating apps were ruining my life, so i deleted them.

it's been a year since i deleted all the dating apps from my phone. i know most people don't think its the big feat that i am making it out to be, but i really had to pat myself on the back when i finally swiped that annoying flame app into the trash where it belonged. however, it wasn't just tinder, i ditched absolutely all my dating apps. cold turkey.

tinder. hinge. bumble. hot or not. coffee meets bagel. facebook dating. all of them.

i was possibly, inappropriately early to the online dating game back in my late high-school/early college days. i don't quite remember how i found out about tinder, but when i signed up, i truly almost lost my mind. however, the plethora of little ceasars style hot n' ready coitus was enough to turn any sexually available young person into a bit of an addict, which we will get to later. this toppled with the fact that dating apps are structured as some sort of game where the winnings were just an actual response to something you had to say. WITH WORDS. SENTENCES EVEN. NOT. EMOJIS. i think the worst part of my experience on dating apps was the fact i didn't realize how attached i was to "winning" this hypothetical game until i threw in the hypothetical towel, chucked up a deuces and walked off the court.

amazons' the wilds proves that we are seriously failing teenage girls.

the introduction to amazon's new show, the wilds, really hit home for a lot of reasons. not because the show is essentially about young girls being stranded on deserted island. not because the girls had to fend for themselves with barely any food or fresh water. not even because they're obviously extremely traumatized from what happened on the island and being forced to relate what happened to two grown men. it is because of how each of the girls talk about how they were better off on the island alone because of how poorly they were treated by society before they fully cut off from it.

each episode focuses on a different girl and the very different experiences they've had that led them to getting put on the plane that crashed-landed on the island that they're currently inhabiting. one of the girls is named leah, (sarah pidgeon) who is dealing with her first heartbreak. it's very real and very painful, but, what we learn later (which those mf annoyingly scientists gloss over), is that her relationship was with a 30-year old man. she is very evidently, the main character of the group. we spend the most time with her outside of the group and she is the one that leads the monologue that sets up one of the most important parts of the show: that, we, as a society, are failing teenage girls.

why i am choosing violence instead of resolutions for 2021.

2020 was wack. we all know this for a fact. i don't think i need to go through the bad things that happened this year as we are all well aware that the pandemic fucked up everyone's life in some facet. and if not, well, good for you, but this isn't the place for you. this a space for people working on their goals; not insanely wealthy, 1%'s that drive a tesla and have never had to put back the fancy vegan cheese because rent was due in a few days and that little $7 will matter at some point.

elon musk would never read this blog, but if, by some chance, you are elon musk and you are reading this blog...fuck you, elon musk.this a space for people looking to learn how to become WINNERS.